In all relationships, there's the physical, the mental
aspects and the spiritual side of things. No matter what kind of relationship
in your life, all three (physical, mental, and spiritual) are always present. A
person, who's left your life, has started this three stage process.
These stages are crucial for you to; move on, let go, not
get hurt, prevent you from being hurt further, or just a way to break free of
the strangle hold they have on you.
It is scientifically proven that energy bonds are made in
all relationships. This relieves all the nay-sayers who don't think this stuff
exists. Please do your research, before you brush this topic off as false.
When you're emotionally connected and investing in someone,
all of your energies combine. Depending on the level of the relationship, this
bond can be extremely strong and stay with you for your entire life.
The key to breaking the bond between you both is to follow these steps:
1) Physical:
The physical break is the easiest to do. By simply not
seeing each other breaks this tie together and prevents new types of energy
sharing between the two of you (above and beyond already transferred and
shared).
Other connections also affect this stage, for example, if
you just broke up with your ex, the friendships you made together can go both
ways. Some may be on your side, others might not. Determining which ones to
trust is very tricky and very important not to cause drama. The best thing for you
is to only speak to your most trusted friend. The less people involved in your
recovery, the less drama it will cause.
The mental game is a hard one to let go, I wrote an article
that will help you with this stage titled: "Emotional Release, Things to Expect." Please read this article once you've finished cutting the cord.
Even after you cut the cord, it still takes effort to break or
"release" the mental, emotional bond that the heart needs to take
time to mend.
3) Spiritual:
Surprisingly this stage can be the easiest and most
effective to help with the release process. Each time you make a connection
with someone, there’s an exchange of the spirit, the energy bond. This bond is
a two-way stream of; giving and receiving energy.
3.1) Abusive Relationships - Spiritual Attack of the Soul:
In most abusive relationships, this energy bond is
destructive to the person on the receiving end because the energy flow is
mainly a one way street. The "abuser" is not only draining you of
energy, but sending you negative energy to break down your spirit. This process
empowers the abuser and weakens the abused.
An abusive relationship MUST be cut from the spiritual side,
a person who has done you harm; physically, mentally, and spiritually can
continue to attack you long after they are gone. I've seen this 1st hand what
affects this has on a person’s psyche.
I’m sure for some of you, the statement from above just hit
home. Many of you have probably wondered why your abuser has been in your
thoughts, feelings, and nightmares. They still have a bond with you, even after
they are gone. That is why it’s so imperative that you cut this nasty cord for
good.
3.2) Family, Friends, & Normal Relationships - Negative
Energy Takers:
In every person's journey, at one point or another we all
come across a family member or friend we must let go of, for all sorts of
reasons. Naming those reasons isn't really relevant, but the process is just as
hard as letting go of an abusive relationship.
Although it might be a lot harder to cut the spiritual cord
consciously, it's necessary to help mend your mind and soul, which also helps
to build a new bond, a fresh start later on when you're ready.
Cutting the spiritual cord doesn't mean it cannot be
re-attached, in fact, sometimes cutting the cord allows two people to start
fresh, start over and helps one or the other to finally see things clearly.
Now that we’ve cleared up the “what” this cord does and
means, let’s get onto the “how” to.
HOW TO CUT THE SPIRITUAL CORD - STEP PROCESS:
A) Must be done out of love, no exceptions. Cutting the cord
out of hate might help to only strengthen it, giving you a false representation
of what's actually being done. Remember you're doing this out of love for;
yourself and the other to move on safely.
B) When cutting the cord, make sure you're in your most
calming, relaxed space, the one place you can go to unwind and be alone for a
few minutes. A certain room, outside near a tree, a park, your car, or even
your bathroom if you have to.
C) It takes a certain amount of visualization for this
process. I like to meditate for a few minutes to calm the mind and help prepare
my spiritual shield and energy. If you have problems visualizing in your mind,
get a photo of the person to help enhance your connection.
D) Now visualize an energy cord that connects from you to
the other person. In most cases, it's tied to your belly like an umbilical cord,
but NOT always, so make sure you see where the cord is attached to. Some people
might have it connected to; the mind, the heart, the belly, or other. If you
cannot see where it's attached, imagine then - that's it's attached to your
belly.
E) While visualizing, you must remember to do this out of
love. See the person about 5-9 feet in front of you, the cord is attached to
the same place for both of you, now visualize a sharp object and slice through
the energy cord. Do this three separate times; see the cord again and again
cutting the cord.
F) For the last time you see the cord, imagine your heart
sending a pink energy to the other person's cut end and send the pink love
energy to the tip of their cord to close and mend it.
G) Once complete, look at the person and see them leaving
the room (KEY). Our souls can hang on without the cord, especially in long-term
relationships that have gone through a great deal.
H) Make sure the person leaves the room, you might have to
mentally force them to leave, even ask them to please leave.
I) Once the person has left, imagine the sun sending you a colourful
energy beam to your heart which will mend your heart, don't stop there if
possible, imagine the sun beam to engulf your entire body, physically turn your
head towards the sun to take it on directly.
J) Smile before opening your eyes as to say goodbye to that
person and slowly open your eyes.
It's not uncommon to have a sudden rush of emotions after
this process, please let the emotions run through you, do not block them. Those
emotions are all the emotions the two of you had connected with each other. If
you feel like crying, do not stop. If you feel rage, yell at the wall as loud
as you can to let it all out.
Make sure to re-hydrate your energy afterwards, drink an
entire freezing cold glass of water. Water is the best conduit for your body's
energy flow (proven fact). This process can be draining and it's important to
drink lots of water, listen to your body. If you're hungry, eat something
healthy and satisfying.
You've now learned the process to cut the spiritual cord
with a person to truly let them go out of your life, OR to re-build a new cord
to help a fresh new journey together.
I wish you all the best!
Namaste!
Thanks Martin. This is the most insightful and love based article I have read about cutting energetic cords. Much appreciated. Suz Swanson
ReplyDeleteYou're very welcome Suz. I'm glad this has helped you with this process.
DeleteNamaste!
Martin
Enjoyed reading! Excellent understandable, practical help~ Shannon
ReplyDeleteThank you Shannon. I appreciate your comments :)
DeleteNamaste!
Martin
what do you do when you cut the cord but the persons won't leave they just stand there?
ReplyDeleteVery valid question.
DeleteAs I mentioned above you need to force them out. This can be tricky. One thing I've done in the past is seen myself leave instead, which also works.
But to answer your question if you need to use force, see a colourful beam from your heart pushing them out the door, or away from you. This is done out of love for them which is important. Being forceful shouldn't be done through; hate, being impatient, or your need to get them out no matter what.
What are your thoughts on the following: When someone cuts the cord without the other's knowledge and it is not done with love in mind. When the cord is just yanked out and no goodness or mending is sent to the recipient. When no loving energy is part of the cutting of the cord. The recipient actually FEELS the immediate overwhelming energy of sadness (at first not knowing what has happened) and in being an Empath all of a sudden KNOWS the cord has been cut and not done in a loving manner. Any advice for those who have been the recipient of this hurtful type of cord cutting? I suppose the person just goes on, but it is much harder on them as they are hurt deeply because of the improper way the cord has been cut. Any thoughts on that one??
ReplyDeleteHey Sandy,
DeleteCutting the cord in that manner is goes against the nature of harmony and karma. If the recipient knows they've just been "yanked out", I would advise them to do some healing in the area affected, and perform their own spiritual energy cord cutting in a loving manner to mend their own, and the others bond properly.
I've never experienced having someone just "rip" out their cord, but that comes from being grounded properly and protected to ensure no one can harm me in such a fashion.
Again, some healing on themselves, and the other after sensing such a ruthless act.
Hope this helps!
Martin