My soul, oh my soul:

Could it be, my soul feels good for once,
But how can that be, I build on trust.

My way is to reject and shield love,
just to make sure its true conviction.

What do I do when something from above,
tells me to trust, past reluctance.

My guides tell me my gut cannot be wrong,
be willing, sacrifice and to be strong.

Words aren't enough, touch becomes warm,
hugs are perfect, kisses are what i yearn.

I look in the mirror deep into my eyes,
I see truth, I see you, but how is it possible.

My eyes never lie, they are born to be wise,
Maybe this is a test, a feeling, an obstacle.

Or better yet, this is my path, i'm so blessed,
With you there at my side, this is our quest.

We will do great things together, love each other,
The world will see our message, no need to cover.

Be free I say, be ourselves and be judged,
Time for us to be true, and help each other needs.

Our past is our past, we should not hold a grudge,
The people that harm us, will one day concede.

I say this to you, for I know not of the future,
I say this to you, for our paths have crossed.

We need only each other, every moment we capture,
The die is cast, the line is set, nothing lost.

You're so beautiful inside, my souls attached,
Let the cord of love never die, never snap.

Be with me now, hold onto me tight,
Our future is strong and all so bright.

I love you, I said it, hope you hear my words,
Since this I give you to, with all my heart, all I can afford.

Love,

Martin R. Lemieux

Cutting the Spiritual Energy Cord - Relationship Releases:

In all relationships, there's the physical, the mental aspects and the spiritual side of things. No matter what kind of relationship in your life, all three (physical, mental, and spiritual) are always present. A person, who's left your life, has started this three stage process.

These stages are crucial for you to; move on, let go, not get hurt, prevent you from being hurt further, or just a way to break free of the strangle hold they have on you.

It is scientifically proven that energy bonds are made in all relationships. This relieves all the nay-sayers who don't think this stuff exists. Please do your research, before you brush this topic off as false.

When you're emotionally connected and investing in someone, all of your energies combine. Depending on the level of the relationship, this bond can be extremely strong and stay with you for your entire life.

The key to breaking the bond between you both is to follow these steps:

1) Physical:

The physical break is the easiest to do. By simply not seeing each other breaks this tie together and prevents new types of energy sharing between the two of you (above and beyond already transferred and shared).

Other connections also affect this stage, for example, if you just broke up with your ex, the friendships you made together can go both ways. Some may be on your side, others might not. Determining which ones to trust is very tricky and very important not to cause drama. The best thing for you is to only speak to your most trusted friend. The less people involved in your recovery, the less drama it will cause.

 2) Mental:

The mental game is a hard one to let go, I wrote an article that will help you with this stage titled: "Emotional Release, Things to Expect." Please read this article once you've finished cutting the cord. Even after you cut the cord, it still takes effort to break or "release" the mental, emotional bond that the heart needs to take time to mend.

3) Spiritual:

Surprisingly this stage can be the easiest and most effective to help with the release process. Each time you make a connection with someone, there’s an exchange of the spirit, the energy bond. This bond is a two-way stream of; giving and receiving energy.

3.1) Abusive Relationships - Spiritual Attack of the Soul:

In most abusive relationships, this energy bond is destructive to the person on the receiving end because the energy flow is mainly a one way street. The "abuser" is not only draining you of energy, but sending you negative energy to break down your spirit. This process empowers the abuser and weakens the abused.

An abusive relationship MUST be cut from the spiritual side, a person who has done you harm; physically, mentally, and spiritually can continue to attack you long after they are gone. I've seen this 1st hand what affects this has on a person’s psyche.

I’m sure for some of you, the statement from above just hit home. Many of you have probably wondered why your abuser has been in your thoughts, feelings, and nightmares. They still have a bond with you, even after they are gone. That is why it’s so imperative that you cut this nasty cord for good.

3.2) Family, Friends, & Normal Relationships - Negative Energy Takers:

In every person's journey, at one point or another we all come across a family member or friend we must let go of, for all sorts of reasons. Naming those reasons isn't really relevant, but the process is just as hard as letting go of an abusive relationship.

Although it might be a lot harder to cut the spiritual cord consciously, it's necessary to help mend your mind and soul, which also helps to build a new bond, a fresh start later on when you're ready.

Cutting the spiritual cord doesn't mean it cannot be re-attached, in fact, sometimes cutting the cord allows two people to start fresh, start over and helps one or the other to finally see things clearly.

Now that we’ve cleared up the “what” this cord does and means, let’s get onto the “how” to.

HOW TO CUT THE SPIRITUAL CORD - STEP PROCESS:

A) Must be done out of love, no exceptions. Cutting the cord out of hate might help to only strengthen it, giving you a false representation of what's actually being done. Remember you're doing this out of love for; yourself and the other to move on safely.

B) When cutting the cord, make sure you're in your most calming, relaxed space, the one place you can go to unwind and be alone for a few minutes. A certain room, outside near a tree, a park, your car, or even your bathroom if you have to.

C) It takes a certain amount of visualization for this process. I like to meditate for a few minutes to calm the mind and help prepare my spiritual shield and energy. If you have problems visualizing in your mind, get a photo of the person to help enhance your connection.

D) Now visualize an energy cord that connects from you to the other person. In most cases, it's tied to your belly like an umbilical cord, but NOT always, so make sure you see where the cord is attached to. Some people might have it connected to; the mind, the heart, the belly, or other. If you cannot see where it's attached, imagine then - that's it's attached to your belly.

E) While visualizing, you must remember to do this out of love. See the person about 5-9 feet in front of you, the cord is attached to the same place for both of you, now visualize a sharp object and slice through the energy cord. Do this three separate times; see the cord again and again cutting the cord.

F) For the last time you see the cord, imagine your heart sending a pink energy to the other person's cut end and send the pink love energy to the tip of their cord to close and mend it.

G) Once complete, look at the person and see them leaving the room (KEY). Our souls can hang on without the cord, especially in long-term relationships that have gone through a great deal.

H) Make sure the person leaves the room, you might have to mentally force them to leave, even ask them to please leave.

I) Once the person has left, imagine the sun sending you a colourful energy beam to your heart which will mend your heart, don't stop there if possible, imagine the sun beam to engulf your entire body, physically turn your head towards the sun to take it on directly.

J) Smile before opening your eyes as to say goodbye to that person and slowly open your eyes.

It's not uncommon to have a sudden rush of emotions after this process, please let the emotions run through you, do not block them. Those emotions are all the emotions the two of you had connected with each other. If you feel like crying, do not stop. If you feel rage, yell at the wall as loud as you can to let it all out.

Make sure to re-hydrate your energy afterwards, drink an entire freezing cold glass of water. Water is the best conduit for your body's energy flow (proven fact). This process can be draining and it's important to drink lots of water, listen to your body. If you're hungry, eat something healthy and satisfying.

You've now learned the process to cut the spiritual cord with a person to truly let them go out of your life, OR to re-build a new cord to help a fresh new journey together.

I wish you all the best!

Namaste!

Martin R. Lemieux

Soul Relationships: Good, Bad, and Ugly Doesn't Equal to Lifelong Happiness.

50+ Reasons Why Relationships Fail & 50 Things to Make it Healthy!

Why Relationships Tend to Fail:

1)  Communication
2)  Jealousy
3)  Attachment
4)  Domination over the other
5)  Selfishness
6)  No time (for each other)
7)  Having unhealthy privacy boundaries
8)  Pointing out faults
9)  Commenting about your relationship online
10) Intrusive friends
11) One-sided expectations
12) Objective family members
13) Not enough similar interests
14) Lack of respect
15) Loving others more
16) Avoiding the truth
17) Sexual thoughts for someone else
18) Distance (extensive and on purpose)
19) Fighting over parenting skills
20) MONEY MONEY MONEY!
21) Ex's in the Way
22) Not paying enough attention
23) Hanging with friends, rather than yourselves
24) Lack of true friendship
25) Being into yourself
26) Being interesting
27) Denial
28) Trying to change the other
29) Going to bed angry
30) Incompatibility
31) Goals growing further apart
32) Faded chemistry
33) Sexual tension
34) Planning a sex day just because
35) Going on different paths
36) Moving in, finding out their mannerisms
37) Toilet seat up, or down?
38) Following one person's dream, not both
39) Blaming your partner
40) Forcing change
41) Not accepting them for WHO they are
42) Rushing things too quickly
43) Flirting with others in person
44) Hiding that you masturbate
45) Staying for the wrong reasons
46) Not actually happy, in denial
47) Not being honest with yourself
48) Growing apart one day at a time
49) Lying about being in love
50) CHEATING!!!

51 Extra) Abuse
52 Extra) Mental or physical abuse
53 Extra) Making the partner feel low through painful words
54 Extra) Feeding off the partners emotional strains
55 Extra) Denying one is happy when they aren't!

There are so many things why people falsely hang onto one another. If you can related to more than 10, or even 20 of the above mentioned relationship breakers, you might be in denial about being truthful to yourself, and are probably not happy. Your insecurities are getting the best of yourself. I know people who can relate to 20-30 or more of the above mentioned detrimental hick-ups, and believe me, they AREN'T really happy, they are holding onto the fact that they are afraid to change, afraid to step out on their own, be their own person once again.

Cheer up, there's hope for you after all. Below I will mention things that will change everything around in your life, but it won't come without; sacrifice, determination, belief and a great deal of effort from the both of you.

How to Have Healthy Relationships:

1)   You deserve to be happy
2)   You deserve to be happy
3)   You deserve to be loved
4)   You deserve to be respected
5)   Your loved one should honor your beliefs
6)   Your loved one should respect your wishes
7)   NEVER go to bed angry
8)   NEVER let the other own you
9)   NEVER let the other degrade you in front of others
10) Please don't fight near children
11) Couples counseling isn't for aliens
12) You CANNOT make people change, they have to want to
13) Both of you write a list of things that make you unhappy (be honest, but not attacking)
14) Never talk about things you don't like about each other, only things that aren't helping
15) Talk about things that make you happy in life
16) Be SPONTANEOUS!
17) Don't point out things that you know which will set the other off on purpose
18) NEVER abuse the others emotions
19) NEVER let the other abuse your emotions
20) Know when to call it quits, happiness shouldn't be won over
21) Become their friend first, not just their lover, friends should always love each other
22) Best friends never fall apart, fake relationships do
23) Have a healthy friendhip circle to vent and speak to when needed
24) Don't let your friends pick your significant other apart
25) Remind friends they don't have a right to butt in, only when asked
26) Moving in together is NOT always the answer (careful what you wish for)
27) Marriage won't make things better, loving each other will
28) Don't hide your intentions and plans for change, it doesn't work
29) Find ways to show how much they mean to you
30) Go away together camping, alone in nature together (can be a day trip, picnic)
31) Busy lifestyle? Find time to slow it down once a week
32) Make healthy first dates all the time
33) Take a road trip, pin the donkey on a map
34) Don't fake it, be real with each other
35) If you have sexual fantasies of someone else, don't string your partner along
36) Sex isn't all that? Get creative, role play, do something that makes your heart race
37) Write little letters in each other's lunch bags of love and having a great day
38) Protect each other, not make fun of each other's faults in public venues
39) Friends don't need convincing. If so, then you do as well (not good)
40) Family is family; your relationship is yours, not theirs
41) Kids are wonderful, but not if you're unhappy together, show them love, not denial
42) Go do something you both fear, that experience will bond you both together
43) Have healthy friendships outside of your partnership, respect them as well
44) Encourage each other's dreams; each of you should have them
45) Don't plan intimacy, surprise each other with moments of affection
46) Don't hide behind the truth, be truthful to each other, no matter the outcome
47) When in doubt, start over; introduce each other for the 2nd time
48) Over time people change, embrace new changes, support their changes
49) Arguments are healthy, release the anger, have make-up sex, go to bed happy
50) Love each other for each other's faults, embrace them, they're yours to love :)

I could probably write about 50 things to help with your relationship with your partner. Bottom line is, we all know if we are happy or not, don't deny it for the sake of not being alone. A person faking the funk is worse off than couples who have certain problems but are working towards overcoming those small bends in life.

Don't be afraid to tell the truth, a lie never dies and never wins the person's heart. The more you deny these 100+ things good or bad, the more people will notice, and in time it might be too late to reverse the emotional effect on the relationship. Nip the negatives in the butt early on, build on that, use that hurdle to become stronger, more loving to each other.

I'm not going to fluff it up for you, relationships are among the hardest things in life to make work, but when they do, they also become the best thing in life at the same time.

Don't be afraid to ask for outside help, but always do it as a couple. One-sided spiritual relationship guidance is only helping 50% of the underlining problems; the other 50% is in the dark and isn't changing with you on their own free will.

I hope this helps both of you to find happiness which as you know by now, comes in all; shapes, sizes, races, colours, faiths, and especially in friendships first.

If you have comments, suggestions or questions, please do so below.

Namaste!
Martin R. Lemieux